7: Talents & Strengths

Question for you: Are Talents & strengths the same thing?

 

Talent (a natural way of thinking, feeling, or behaving)

X

Investment (time spent practicing, developing your skills, & building your knowledge base)

_________________________________________________________________________________=      Strength (the ability to consistently provide near-perfect performance)

Ten thousand hours theory

Book by Malcolm Gladwell called Outliers

Focus on our natural abilities to achieve more confidence

Own who you are- get better at who you are

Think about this question: What fills your cup? What fills the others cups?

Resource:

Gallup Clifton strengths assessment

The test breaks it down to 34 different strengths & the test helps to distinguish which order your strengths are in.

Why would you want to know your strengths?

  • Everyone is good at something

  • A lot of times we compare ourselves to others & their achievements

  • We lean toward pointing out our weaknesses or flaws

  • If you focus on your top strengths & the strengths of the people you are around the most it will help you know how to work together, be together, help each other.

  • Instead of judging or comparing to each other

  • Over all people want connection, community, culture

  • Each person’s strengths is like their fingerprint, no two people have the same set

  • Lean into your strengths to become the best version of yourself & leave the rest to someone else

Follow this cycle:

LEARN IT (your strengths) -- LOVE IT (set the foundation) -- LIVE IT (where the rubber hits the road)

6: Challenge=opportunity

The question I want you to ask yourself & the thing I will be talking about today is: Challenge=opportunity, what does that mean?

An opportunity is a situation in which it is possible for you to do something that you want to do.

We are presented with choices every single day. Most are small choices, really insignificant seeming, but really that is usually the things that make all the difference in our lives. The little everyday things. So here is a story for you: Each night I go into my kids room & start a diffuser with doterra essential oils in it. If you don’t know what a diffuser is, it is a small thing that holds water & essential oils that when turned on it vibrates super fast to put a cool mist into the air. Ok, so I do this each night, it’s become very habitual, the kids love it & it helps them sleep & keep them healthy. The point of me telling you this...it would be super easy to not do this, but at the same time it is super easy to do & they benefit so much from it, sleeping better & keeping them healthy is really important to me & to them. We are faced with choices like this all day, we can either do the thing or not do the thing, but which path or opportunity will it lead it lead to if we don’t do the thing

From the book The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, the whole book is about resistance...as in we resist to do what we know we want or need to do...like something is holding us back. In one part he says, “ Remember our rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.” Then he goes on to say, “so if you’re paralysed with fear, it’s a good sign. It shows you what you have to do.”

Here is another story for you: this is a bit of a crazy experience that I have really had to push myself outside my comfort zone. At my kids school every Tuesday & Thursday I stand in front of 350 kids to do a mini workout with them for 10 minutes. Keep in mind that we are new at the school this year, we didn’t know anyone & now I do this twice a week.

So, do you take opportunities that are presented to you? Do you reach out of your comfort zone to possibly gain more...knowledge, love, growth, education, power...or do you take the other path?

I know for me I need to take the plunge more often, to challenge myself more to see what opportunities come from it.

Reference:

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Soulful Escape to Bali

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4: Did I work enough?

The struggle for me is that I try to have my hand in a lot of different pots. Multitasking isn’t always my friend…

But honestly the biggest problem is the guilt of not working enough, of not feeling like I can’t sit down until everything is done.

Which who am I kidding the list will never be done, things will always be getting added to the list.

So, how do I manage that, how do I say, that is enough for the day?

Here is what I have tried:

  1. Make a manageable list of what can be done that day

  2. Make a need to get done list & a want to get done list

  3. Make a list of the scheduled things for the day

  4. Take small breaks throughout the day

    1. Go for walk with your dog

    2. Eat lunch in a different area than you work

    3. Stop when your kids get home or when you get home from work to hang out with them, at least for a little bit

  5. Plan the night before, best self co. or bullet journalling

  6. Don’t be afraid to put things on the “to do list” for the next day

  7. Most importantly be realistic

Resources:

Book: Miracle Morning

Bestself Co.

Bullet journaling

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3: Brain dump

Ever feel like you have so many things rolling around in your head that you aren’t even sure where to begin? The overwhelm sets in & you shut down? I know I feel this way sometimes, honestly a lot of the time. I have recently been doing something that really helps get me it out of my head, onto paper & then organized, so that I can actually take on the tasks that need or I want to get done!

So what are the actual steps on how to do this?

References:

Aritsts way by Julia Cameron, the morning pages

Em Falconbridge--1 song art, before you start working… on instagram @magpiewild

Bullet Journalling, look it up on pinterest.com

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2: Find yourself again

The steps of going from being you, an individual, who has the time to do whatever you want, your own schedule, to being married, sharing your space, to having kids, to them going to school or getting older, more independent, to finding out who you are again...

The different seasons of life…

Ebb & flow

What are your interests? What are your hobbies? What makes you smile? What do you fill your time with?

Reference:

Creativelive.com

creativebug.com

Pinterest

Old fashion way...going to a bookstore

 

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1: Introduction to between grace & chaos

In this podcast I talk about why I decided to start a podcast...what my intentions are with it & what I want to share with others. This is a journey about becoming a better version of myself through personal development, talking it out & sharing with others. This is only the beginning...I am excited to be with you every week to talk about different topics, including being a mom, working with my husband, the adventures & not so adventures of having 4 little kids, making art & taking care of ourselves through natural forms of healthcare. I am a true believer in helping others have a better quality of life, it is my mission. 

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